Celebrate your mother
Mums. We've all got one, some two.
None of us were able to pick who it was that carried us, birthed us or brought us up, but our mums chose to have us and helped to shape us.
My mum has certainly influenced who I've become. Sure, I've picked up some of her less-than-great ways, and, sure, she can bug me sometimes, but I have an enormous amount of gratitude for every bit of help, care and love she and my dad have given me over the years. She loves me unconditionally, no matter how tricky I'm being, and this has taught me to love my family unconditionally too.
Looking back at family photos from when I was little, I can see that they let me be who I wanted to be, helped me to be happy and allowed me to explore what I found interesting. This included art, the Spice Girls, fruit-picking, Pokemon, wrestling, noisy rock music and more, all in a messy whirl of curiosity, exploration and a thirst to learn. She still supports me enormously. I hope that if I ever have kids, I am able teach them that it's more than okay to be yourself.
One of my favourite magazines, Oh Comely, recently ran a survey of over 500 readers to see what their relationships with their mothers are like. The stats were heartwarming.
- 54% said their relationship with their mum couldn't be better
- 65% are in contact with their mothers several times a week, with over a third in daily contact
- 26% said they think they are turning into their mum as they get older and are happy about it
- 24% said they're very different to their mum, but I don't think this is necessarily a bad thing as it shows self-growth and independence
Overall, they show that most people surveyed realise how special their mum is, which is a lovely thing to find out given how disconnected and broken society can feel at times. You only get one birth mum, which makes her very precious indeed – wherever she is, however often you talk or whatever you've gone through together.
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Mother's Day is just 24 hours long, but you can show gratitude to your mum any time. Give it a go, and let her know how happy you are that she brought you into being who you are and that you're so glad she's in your life. I bet you'll spread your happiness. Even if your mother isn't around anymore, you could take a moment to reflect on how wonderful she was and remember the good times you had together.
Hooray for mums!